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10 Resolutions That Aren't Resolutions

These resolutions aren't resolutions at all... but rather they're steps we can all take to be the best version of ourselves. They're realistic, easy, and take little motivation to accomplish.

10. Eat Out Less

I actually feel like this is a pretty common resolution and we all know why. 2017 has to be the year we all get our shit together and stop spending money on useless stuff... including eating out. Limit yourself to twice a week and every time you feel like going out to eat take that $15 you would've spent and put it in your travel fund.

9. No Spend Month

Speaking of saving money... as a minimalist this is easier for me... but limit yourself to only buying groceries and absolute necessities just for one month. Once you realize how easy the minimalism lifestyle is you'll be ready to at the very least spend less than you currently are.

8. Purge

All. The. Time. Keep a box in your hallway and whenever you come across an item that hasn't been used in 6 months, put it in the donate box. When the box is full donate it and put out another box. Easy peasy. For clothes... turn all your hangers backwards and when you wear an item put it back the right way. In 6 months anything hanging backwards gets donated. It's time to rid of the excess. 2017 will not be the year we spend organizing all our crap.

7. Read

Duh... I know I'm a broken record always telling people to read... but that's because I want to live in a society where small talk no longer exists because everyone actually has something interesting to say. Reading will make you more interesting, strengthen your vocabulary, open your mind to new experiences, and make you a better version of yourself. This doesn't mean you need to only read business books, or non-fiction books, by all means read as much fiction as you want, but just freakin read.

6. Focus on self-awareness

This is something I'm ALWAYS doing. I want to know myself better than anyone else and I want to know everything there is to know. How do I feel about different circumstances, what are my strengths, weaknesses, how do I feel about the people in my life, what are my goals, etc. Take personality tests, get readings done (palm, future, whatever), spend time alone, and analyze yourself. This doesn't make you self-centered... it makes you smart. I know what I bring to the table when I know my strengths and I know what I need in someone else to fill my weaknesses. Again I'm not totally there yet, but it's something I'm always working on.

5. PLAN

It doesn't matter what resolution you choose for next year, if you don't plan it won't happen. Plan HOW you're going to travel. Plan WHEN you're going to exercise. Plan how you're going to achieve every goal down to how you're going to work on it each day. If you don't you're not going to reach it. I wrote a post on how to plan a productive day here.

4. Find inspiration

Instead of beating a dead horse I'm just going to link the posts I've already written about why you need inspiration and how to find it.

6 Reasons Why We Need To Be Inspired

7 Ways to Become Inspired and Find Your Passion

3. Let's get healthy

This one is huge for me this year. I spent so much of last year sick because of various health problems... but I'm feeling better and I can finally whip my butt back into shape. I'm not going to a gym on Monday to buy a membership that I'm only going to use once a week... but I am planning (again down to the day) how I'm going to get back in shape. The thing about getting healthy is that everyone is different and this is where self-awareness really comes into play. My recommendation is not to start a fad diet (paleo, weight-watchers, etc), but just really be mindful of what you're eating and how it makes you feel. Your body will tell you everything you need to know if you just take the time to listen to it.

I'm also a healer so if you're feeling overwhelmed and would like a reading you can learn more about how I heal here.

2. Focus on trimming your relationships

If there are people in your life bringing unnecessary negativity trim them out. Focus on the people who bring a positive light to your life. Use the precious time you have to build relationships and network with people. Again.. 2017 needs to be about ridding yourself of excess... including excess people... to only leave room for the absolute best (because we deserve the best and only the best). 

1. Stop trying to be happy

It's sickening how focused our culture is on finding happiness. It's the most depressing journey tbh. If you're not content with your life you probably have too much excess, not enough inspiration, or are surrounded by negativity. Stop trying to buy things you think are going to make you happy, stop trying to compare yourself to others because you only see the most polished versions of everyone else (ESPECIALLY on social media), and stop telling yourself "you're not happy but one day you will be". If you're not happy right now you're trying too hard. Just relax dude... be mindful and enjoy the moment.

7 Ways To Become Inspired and Find Your Passion

I felt like after my last post 6 Reasons Why We Need To Be Inspired, I should also explain HOW to become inspired. I hope this helps!

1. Focus on what you already know you enjoy

If you already know that you love yoga, painting, writing, hiking, whatever... invest more time into it now. The reason you love it is because it's fueling your inspiration flame. Notice how you always feel refreshed after doing these things. If you're not sure what these are... they're the things that after you do it you feel like you just took a nap afterward. Your mind feels clear, you feel like you can breathe, and you feel healthy while you do it. So these things should not include drinking, eating shitty foods, and doing things you might think you love... but that don't make you feel lighter after doing it. 

2. Continually try out new experiences

There are so many hobbies out there you have no excuse to spend all of your free time binge watching Netflix. Try taking classes (find free or inexpensive ones in your city!), try crafting, try renovating, try training for competitions, try wine tastings or tea tastings, try new restaurants, WHATEVER. If you feel stuck trying to think of hobbies I would suggest starting with Pinterest. You just need to research what is available in your area. Obviously in Phoenix I'm not going to try to take up Surfing, and in Maine I'm not going to try perfecting prickly pear margaritas. This is (in my opinion) the funnest part of finding inspiration. If you try something and you hate it so what? You don't have to commit to it forever, and it's worth taking a chance on it just in case you end up loving it for the rest of your life. 

3. Travel

And constantly be planning your next trip! Plan trips to different destinations in your state, in your country, and around the world! It's ALWAYS doable if you budget! I do this by calculating how much it's going to cost me to go on the trip, dividing it by how many months there are between now and the trip, and saving that much each month. SUPER SIMPLE. After visiting a new place is when I feel the most inspired. Traveling gives you feelings and insights that no other experience possibly could. You can read all of the books you want about the place, but experiencing what can't be put into words is the only way to get the whole effect. Trust me when I say traveling is an absolute MUST. 

4. Read!!!!!

I cannot stress this point enough. Everyone around me is sick of me saying this. Get lost in books. I never finish a book and feel uninspired. THIS is where I learn about humanity, emotions, productivity, different approaches to life, etc. I absolutely love learning and I feel my fire roaring when I'm reading and gaining new insights. You can read whatever you want to, no judgement here! If you want to read syfy, nonfiction, cheesy romance novels, I don't care. That author put their world view seen through their eyes into that book and it's such an amazing way to bring inspiration to your life. 

5. Go on a technology detox

For me, just going 6 hours without any technology around me makes me feel inspired. This is when you read. This is when you hike. This is when you disconnect from technology and reconnect with yourself. I would suggest going as long as you can. This is what I suggest when you feel absolutely no motivation. You know how it is right, you're feeling sad and you can't describe why. You feel sad taking a shower, you feel sad eating, and you don't want to do those things you already know you love. THAT's your brain telling you it needs to unplug from the rest of the world. Burn some essential oil, meditate, and chill off the grid for a while. 

6. Fall in love with nature

Whether you live in a big city or not, nature is every where around you. Go on hikes, go on picnics, and walk barefoot on the ground. If you have an open mind about it, spending even an hour a week in nature is like hitting a reset button on your brain. When your brain is short-circuiting and you're feeling anxious, overwhelmed and you're lacking passion... nature is going to cleanse this. It's like putting an air purifier into your body to rid of the toxic energy. I know I'm sounding like a super hippie right now, but this is STATISTICALLY PROVEN. Folks who live in rural areas surrounded by natural scenery live longer and healthier lives than those who live in large, industrial cities. Make an effort to go back to your ancestral roots (where they spent their entire lives in nature) and I promise you will not lack inspiration whatsoever. When I'm in nature is when I have epiphanies and realizations. I NEED this in my life, so give it a shot!

7. Meditate

It's really that easy. Just sit and think. I have high-functioning anxiety and at least twice per day my thoughts start racing and I feel overwhelmed. I just stop what I'm doing, even if I'm at my desk, I rest my hands on my legs, close my eyes, and count my breaths. This is the key to living with high functioning anxiety if you also have it, or if you're feeling blocked. When I don't know what to write, I meditate. When I'm lacking motivation, I meditate. It's the best fix for when I don't have time to hike, or do yoga, or take a nap. Just sitting for even 5 minutes changing my outlook on the world. I will say this is super important when you're feeling angry and negative as well. Just sit in silence, with your eyes closed, and breathe. I wrote a whole post on Why Badass Bitches Meditate Every Single Day because of how important it is.

 

Of course there are so many more things you can do to feel inspired, these are only 7 that I personally do. I hope this helps! If you have anything you do to boost your inspiration comment below!

How to be a Badass Bitch Who Gets Shit Done

Pardon my french... but actually don't because I'm not sorry for it. I suppose the weaker version of this post would be "how to be a well functioning adult who has their life together", but it doesn't have the same punch. So anyways... I'm not an expert on this topic, yet, but I do spend a lot of time on self development and have always just had a knack for getting my life together. So here are my tips that if you follow somewhat religiously, I promise you that you will be the most badass version of yourself.

Exercise!

If there was only one tip that I could give you to be successful, this is the one. I don't care what excuse you have, badass bitches are not lazy. If you do not want to get off of your butt and exercise then you do not want to be the best version of yourself and you can stop reading this post right now. And I am not telling you to exercise to lose weight, that is just a pleasant side effect of working out, I am telling you to because you will feel strong, motivated, and ALIVE. You will gain the confidence held by all badasses because you're going to feel good about yourself and you're going to prove to yourself that you are disciplined enough to get your freaking life together.

TIP: Running is the most efficient form of exercise and it's free, end it with some cool down yoga and a protein shake and then move onto the other steps.

Stop eating garbage!

Seriously, I'm not going to tell you that you need to throw out your chocolate and eat kale, but stop treating your body like a garbage pit. Badass bitches hold themselves to a very high standard and they not only take responsibility for their actions, they OWN it. Yes for breakfast I have an organic boiled egg and green smoothie because I'm fucking worth it. I'm worth so much more than cereal or McGag-me sandwiches. And don't you dare try to tell me a McGriddle just "tastes so good". No, actually, it really doesn't. You want to know what's better than a processed piece of trash? Knowing that you're going to be able to succeed and make something of yourself because you're giving your brain actual food that it can use to think of clever ways to get ahead. Stop allowing yourself to eat mediocre food, badass bitches are not mediocre.

Stop apologizing!

If I hear one more girl say "I'm sorry" when a man walks into her I'm going to lose it! Stop apologizing for things we all know you're not sorry for! You gave someone room-temperature coffee? Do not apologize they can get their own damn coffee. Someone wants to go to a club and you want to stay home and be introverted? Sick, just tell them that and don't apologize for it. Apologizing is basically the same thing as lying to avoid hurting someone's feelings and it WILL lead to codependency. If you are not genuinely sorry for something you have done or said do not apologize. And then when you say your sorry it'll actually mean something.

Side hustle!

Badass bitches do not have only one goal in life, unless that goal is to be badass. You need to have multiple projects going on because the world needs help and most of all it needs you to work on it, whatever that means. For example, I work full time, maintain this blog, just started a podcast, I'm completing a 2 year graduate program in 1 year and starting a non-profit... and I plan on writing books, and probably 70 other projects because I'm ambitious. A common theme here amongst powerful women is they do not settle. If the only thing in my life was my full time job I would be so depressed and would probably also be addicted to TLC shows about morbidly obese people because I would be looking for inspiration. Don't be that person, be a badass bitch who has projects going and is constantly trying to be even more successful. Badass bitches are financially independent and that means it's a clever idea to have back up incomes just in case you lose one.

Be a feminist!

Personally, I don't even believe this is really a thing, you're either a feminist or your sexist. With that said... be an assertive female who acts just as a badass man would and stop allowing people to treat you differently based on your gender. Stop letting men (or anyone for that matter) interrupt you, bump into you, yell at you, or do anything that treats you as lesser of a human being. Example: you do not need to "smile" and look friendly at all times, RBF is not a thing, men do not walk around smiling either.

Discover yourself!

Over and over and over and over again. You know what is the best superpower? Having complete control over your self esteem. If you know that you're a strong, independent woman who is beautiful, takes care of herself, is healthy, and is a productive member of society, nobody can hurt your ego. Nobody can make you feel like any less of a person than you do now because you know exactly who you are and what you're worth and nobody can take that from you. To get to this stage you need to be in love with yourself. Obviously this does not mean you need to be a narcissistic asshole, but you do need to love who you are and who you're trying to be. That positive self image will be your superpower. So get to know yourself and work on the parts you don't like so you can be the best version of yourself.

Go for it!

If you want to do something then find a way to do it. If you want to travel then find a way. Make a budget and stick to it and live your dream. Literally anything is possible if you take the time and effort to make it possible. For example, I wanted to start a non profit so guess what? I researched how to and I'm in the process of starting it with a whole support system behind me ready to help when I need them. Just do it.

Ask for help!

You're not an island. Life is so much easier when work is divided. People are going to surprise you with how willing they are to help you with whatever you need. I needed someone to take photos for this blog because I don't have a lot of time for that particular task, so I asked my sister and she's been an amazing site model. And the more successful you become the more people you'll have volunteering to help you. If you need a work out buddy, or advice on something, reach out to someone who seems to have it together. Build your community. Badass bitches are badass because we stick together and lift each other up.

Read!

AT LEAST 30 minutes per day. Read self help books, business books, fiction, non fiction, whatever! Your vocabulary will improve. You're going to be more interesting because you're going to have more to talk about. Your thought process is going to become more well rounded. You can tell the difference between a person who reads and a person who watches E! News for current events. It makes a difference. Also, listen to podcasts on your commute instead of always listening to the radio. They are a much more productive use of your time (not that I don't also love music...)

Stop settling!

Stop having shitty food, shitty coffee, shitty sex, shitty relationships, shitty friends, shitty drinks, and a shitty life. You are an amazing person who deserves to be surrounded with amazing experiences. (This does not mean blow your cash on expensive tequila btw). What I mean is... do not drink if you cannot afford to drink the good stuff. You need to be at home working on your side hustles if you're in that situation. Do not have a relationship if it is not going to make you the best version of yourself. Stop allowing mediocre things into your life or that's what you're going to be.

Be proactive!

When your alarm goes off in the morning GTFO of your bed. Get your morning routine down so you are at your most productive state throughout the day. Get your evening routine down so you can go to bed and sleep efficiently as well as have an easier morning routine. Organize your thoughts and plan out your time (I like bullet journals, but do whatever works for you). Do you really think Beyonce is hitting her snooze alarm in the morning? No. Do you think she's having a caramel frappacino and a McGriddle for breakfast? No. She's eating like the Queen she is because she knows that's how you are at your most productive state. Stop making excuses for yourself and get your life together.

PSA: A great app is the sleep cycle app if you don't have an apple watch or fitbit. It will track your REM cycles and wake you up at the end of a cycle so you're not jolted awake in deep sleep. I'm not a morning person so this app is the only reason I can get out of bed without hitting snooze.

Use self care!

And although face masks and pedicures are versions of self care, they are not really what I mean. I mean take care of yourself. Go to the dentist, the doctor, get your oil changed, and do the adult things in your life that aren't super fun, but WILL make you feel better. I feel so relaxed after I've given my car an oil change, bath, and good vacuum. I feel like I can take on the world after that. Self care means taking time to do things that will take stress out of your life. 

Say no!

If you're overworked then tell your boss no. If you do not have enough free time for the things you want to do then tell your friends and your family no. This is critical. You need to make sure your pitcher is full before you can pour into other cups. It does not make you a bad person, it makes you an aware, assertive person and people will respect you for it. 

Be a good fucking person!

Badass bitches are NOT stuck up snobs who think they're better than everyone else. You have an obligation to be a productive and decent member of society. Badass bitches recognize this and they fight for this and they're a beacon of light in a very dark world filled with shitty relationships, shitty alcohol and shitty people. Your success is not about just you, it's what you can do with your success. I want power so I can help people with it, not because I'm a power hungry egomaniac. Educate yourself before you have opinions on political issues, or really any issues, and be that breath of fresh air everyone is craving.

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