Posts tagged need
9 Tips To Manifest Everything You Need

If you're not constantly manifesting you're living life the hard way. I don't care what term you want to use if manifesting sounds a little like witch craft. It's just another term for positive thinking, the law of attraction, praying for things, etc. I want to make one thing very clear, though, ANYONE can manifest anything at anytime. And it's super simple. 

1. Make your intentions clear

The first thing you need to do is write down EXACTLY what you want. The details really matter here. You don't want to confuse the universe/God/spirits/etc. Make sure that you're specific on what you actually want though. For example, when manifesting love manifest how the person will make you feel as opposed to what they will look like. If you've had a hard time finding love you've probably been manifesting the wrong things or confusing the universe with what you want. If you've ever found yourself thinking "I want a guy who looks like Chase Crawford" well great you might get a super attractive guy, but he's a douchebag. So instead request your soul mate. "I want a guy who is unbelievably kind, has as much ambition as I do, has his own hobbies, inspires me to be better, and I'm attracted to him". That's what I manifested and that's what I got. I'm telling you it works. 

2. Ask the universe

Once you know exactly what you want ask the universe for it. "I need $800 to pay my bills, please". Cool it'll happen. DO NOT focus on HOW you're going to get it. That's fear and fear is going to stop you from getting what you're manifesting. You need to trust that the universe is going to bring it to you or it can't. So I'll say "I don't care HOW I get the money I need to move, just please help me to have enough" or "I need a new car please help me to get the perfect car for me". 

3. Trust that the Universe knows better that you do

So if you are manifesting a new house and 3 years go by and there is no house you need to trust that was on purpose. Maybe the market is about to crash and that'll be a better time to buy a house. Maybe an apocalypse is coming and the house you're living in now is safer and better for that event. Who knows? Maybe the car you wanted was a Lexus, but you ended up with a Subaru and you're pissed because you manifested the Lexus. Well just wait because maybe you're going to get into an accident and the Subaru is safer and is going to save your life. You need to be humble and remember that you can't see the future. Manifest what you want, but tell the universe you only want it if it's going to help you with your life's purpose. If it's going to send you down a different or wrong path then tell the universe not to give it to you. 

4. Ask open ended questions

An excellent tool I use to make sure I'm manifesting what I want and having it fit my life's purpose is asking open ended questions. Examples of this include "I wonder what it would feel like to be totally and completely healthy" or "I wonder what it would be like if I had enough money to start charitable foundations to help bring clean water to third world countries". Then I'm putting it it the universe's hands to make me feel that way or for that experience to happen to me and I'm not saying how I want it to happen or when just that it will happen. 

5. Act like it's real

This is where the power of positive thinking comes in. Once you've manifested your dream partner you can just sit back and know that they're coming when they're supposed to and you don't have to worry about it anymore. It's off your plate and the universe has to figure it out now. Act like you already have that job, that scholarship, that money, that car, etc. If you just act like you're totally and completely healthy you'll start to feel totally and completely healthy. It's truly amazing. 

6. Manifest what you want, not just what you need

Something that's hard for me is manifesting more than I need because I somehow think that if I'm getting $100 to pay a bill I'm taking it from someone who really needs it. This is total bullshit. The universe is endless, nothing is scarce. Manifest boat loads of money and success if that's what you want and that's in your life's plan and make sure that when you get it you're giving it away and doing stuff with the money. The universe doesn't manifest to hoarders or people will ill intentions so if you're like Oprah and you want to manifest billions of dollars so you can create charities, and inclusive, diverse media, and you want to give away a lot of your wealth then you're more likely to get it. The reason she keeps getting more money is because she keeps giving it away. There's an energy exchange happening, the energy is flowing in the form of money.  

7. Trust

I know I touched on this a little bit, but you have to 100% trust in God or the Universe that it's going to provide you with it. If you do not believe it's possible it won't happen. If you do not believe you're worthy of it then it won't happen. If you can't imagine yourself with it and act like it's going to happen then it won't happen. You have to have blind trust in it. 

8. Be patient

Yes I want millions of dollars to help people, but I'm not expecting it tomorrow.The universe isn't going to break the laws of nature to make it rain money in my bedroom. It has to bring it to me. So I have to leave different avenues open for it. Maybe I'll meet someone who wants to invest in my ideas. Who knows how the money is going to get to me? I don't care when I get it, I just ask that it's when I'm ready for it and when I can use it for the greatest good and to fulfill my life's purpose. So I manifested it and now I wait. One day it'll happen. It could and probably will happen gradually. 

9. You have to work for it, too

You can't just manifest millions of dollars and then sit on your couch and wait for it to rain money, like I said. You need to be open to opportunities and pay attention to the signs the universe is telling you to in order to earn the millions of dollars. The more avenues you have open the easier it'll be for the universe to bring it to you. The universe can't bring you your soulmate if you never go anywhere or do anything. You won't have to go out and look for them yourself, but you do need to still make sure you have hobbies or whatever that'll get you out of the house and into the world. 

4 Reasons Why You Need To Check Your Attitude

1. Your vibe attracts your tribe

If you want to be surrounded by positive go-getters you need to be a positive go-getter. The vibe that you put out into the universe is the vibe that you're going to get back. My favorite quote is "you can't change the people around you, but you can change the people around you". If people around you are super negative and enjoy having pity parties every night you need to cut the chord and surround yourself with more positive people. And positive people generally only want to be around other positive people.

2. You'll be more productive

If you want to know the real secret behind being productive, here it is. You have to WANT to be productive. Your attitude needs to be in a place where you actually want to do the things you're thinking about doing. If your attitude is checked you'll love learning, working out, reading, and crossing off whatever is on your to-do list because you know it's making you a better version of yourself.

3. More opportunities will be available to you

This one is huge. I don't believe in luck. I didn't receive any of the opportunities in my life because I sat around and waited for them to happen. My attitude was checked. I was open to new experiences, I wanted to be better, I wanted to further my education, I wanted to be successful, and I was excited about any opportunity that came my way, no matter how small. Nobody had to beat me to go to class when I was in college because I WANTED to go. Nobody had to force me to apply for internships, I WANTED to learn and when I got there I took advantage of every learning experience. The people who are giving out opportunities can see the glimmer in the eye of the person with a good attitude. And since good attitudes are few and far between, having one automatically gives you an advantage.

4. You'll be happier

Warning: don't go trying to chase happiness. Like I explained in my post about resolutions it's not going to make you happier, however, not being excited about life is sure not going to help either. If you work on trying to be more grateful, more humble, and more helpful, you're going to be happier. You can take my word on this one. We've all met someone with a positive attitude and we've all met someone with a negative attitude. Which one seems happier? Which one would YOU rather hang out with? With one is going to get farther in life? Check your attitude and be the positive person. No excuses. :)

6 Reasons Why We Need To Be Inspired

One of the most tragic things to hear, in my opinion, is when I ask someone "what do you do for fun" and their response is something along the lines of "oh I don't really know, whatever". It makes me want to shake them, but then I have to take a step back and remember that most people not only don't spend time working on what they're passionate about, but that they don't even know what lights the fire in their soul. Again, the only word I can use to describe this is tragic.

The first step towards finding your passion is finding inspiration. Here are 6 reasons why we need to stay inspired.

 

1. It will give your life purpose

We all know that feeling when we don't have a purpose. The best way I can describe it is depression (not clinical obv.), although that could just be because of my ambitious personality, so without purpose I feel utterly useless. It's easy to tell when I'm lost, I stop caring about everything and sleep even more than I already do (which is a lot).

When I'm inspired, however, it's the exact opposite. I can cross 50 things off of my to-do list, go for a run, and come home and write an inspiring post because my life blood is back. When I feel like I have a purpose then there's a reason to get out of bed before the sun (my least favorite thing to do ever btw). There's a reason to run 3 miles before dinner. There's a reason to stop binge watching Netflix and read 200 pages a day. There's a purpose for me to be alive.

2. Your relationships will be healthier

Again, when I'm on a date and I ask someone what they do for fun and they respond with "whatever" I scream internally. That means they have no passions of their own and they're probably going to focus on me in all of their free time and that's the perfect breeding ground for a toxic relationship. If you're free time is filled with your projects and passions then you won't have time to sit around and think of all the negative stuff about your partner. PLUS there's the added bonus that if you both have your own passions and projects then at the end of the day you get to come home and talk about them, and be excited about them. Personally, the most attractive thing on someone is watching them talk about what they're passionate about.

3. Your attitude will be better

Which means your life will be better. You'll start to realize people will want to hang out with you more because you have so much more to talk about and what you do talk about is all positive. When you see hope in your future it affects your attitude and when you have a positive attitude you manifest positive things. I mean think about it. You know when you meet someone and they just have so much light in their eyes? And when they talk you actually want to listen, you're not forcing yourself to? These are inspired people. Contrast them with the ones with empty eyes, who spend the whole conversations complaining because they have nothing of their own to talk about. It's brutal to listen to them right? Be the inspired person.

4. You'll grow your network

The more projects you do and the more experiences you try the more people you meet, simple as that. You have to go out into the world (even the internet world) and do things and talk to people. The benefit is that you're going to meet people with similar interests. The larger your network the more successful you will be and the less hard you will have to work to be successful. You never know who you're going to meet and when you meet them doing what you're passionate about you already have something in common.

5. You'll be emotionally stable

The best part about having my own projects, my own passions, and finding my own inspiration is that none of those things have to be given to me by someone else. That is giving someone else way too much power. My happiness needs to be controlled by ME. I mean other people can come into my life and bring added joy, but my purpose for waking up in the morning cannot and will not be decided by any body other than me. And again, if I'm immersed in my projects then there are other thoughts to fill my time. And this is especially helpful after a breakup, if you're main purpose in life isn't your partner, then if they leave they didn't leave with your passion. Your ego won't be hurt because you're in charge of it. If someone tries to take away the light in your eyes they won't be able to because you control the flame.

6. You can make a difference

The best part about having your own projects is that you can likely make a difference through them. Love sewing? Donate blankets and clothes. Love painting? Donate artwork for charity auctions and such. Love working out? Train others and motivate them to get healthy. Love gardening? Teach children in your community, or even your own children, how to (this is what my non-profit is going to do btw ;)) All of these things bring communities together. Your passion, while it may be exactly what you need, is not about you because your life is not about you. When you're using it to make a difference you're going to have your sense of purpose filled, you're going to feel great about yourself, and people are going to admire you.

The most powerful weapon on earth is the human soul on fire - Ferdinand Foch

I'm going to write a post shortly about how to stay inspired so stay tuned!

Update 12/19/2016

The follow up post can be found here: 7 Ways To Become Inspired and Find Your Passion

Why Badass Bitches Sleep A LOT

Anyone who knows me knows that I am a professional sleeper. I sleep more than anyone I've ever met and if I don't get my sleep I am a walking nightmare. I don't apologize for it. I know that I need sleep, I inform people around me that I need sleep, and yet somehow people are shocked that when I don't get my 8 hours I'm cranky. Also... society treats sleep as a weakness, when on the contrary lack of sleep is definitely one of our biggest weaknesses.

You know what I mean right? There's always that person who brags about how they can function with only 4 hours of sleep per night. Well that's great and all... but it is HORRIBLE for your body not to sleep. This is why I don't feel bad when I sleep for 12 hours and take a 2 hour nap in the middle of the day.

Sleep is a MUST if you want to be a badass bitch. Productivity does not depend on how much you do, but rather the quality of what you're doing. So yes you might be able to get more done if you sleep for 4 hours instead of 8, but the quality of work you're producing is sub-par because your body and your brain is not at it's full-functioning, supreme state.

Here's a list of the benefits of sleep.

1. Your memory will improve

What is more badass than a person who can remember conversations and details about certain situations and meetings without having to write them down or ask what they missed. The most impressive people, IMO, are the ones with a good memory.

2. You'll be more creative

A study from Harvard University showed that while you sleep your brain goes through your memories and strengthens the emotional components of your memory during sleep. This helps you be more creative and creativity is the epicenter of a badass. How are you going to be innovative if you're not first creative? Plus... your brain processes information while you sleep so you'll be able to think of new ways to look at something or think about something and new ideas and inspiration are likely to spark.

3. You'll have less fatigue

I mean obviously... if you sleep more then you're less sleepy. A Standford University study goes further, however, and discovered that athletes who slept for 10 hours each night improved their sprint time and stamina and reduced their daytime fatigue. Again, how productive can you really be at 3pm when your body is begging you for a nap and instead your pushing it to send out work. You're working harder, not smarter, when you allow your body to feel this fatigue throughout the day. I'm productive from the time I wake up until the time I go to sleep because I'm well rested.

4. You'll be sharper

When you meet a real go-getter, you know, the type of badass that makes you think "wow this person really has it all together", would you describe them as dull or spacey? No. You describe them as sharp and someone who is on top of it and paying attention to their environment. When I'm sleep deprived I am super cranky because I have to use so much more energy to engage in conversations with people. And I often have to tell people "sorry I only got 4 hours of sleep so I probably won't remember a lot of this". When I get 10 hours of sleep, however, I can hear something once and remember it for the rest of my life. This is just me and how my brain works, but I'm sure yours is somewhat similar. Everyone is sharper when they get a good night's sleep.

P.S. This is also why I was comfortable napping throughout finals week. I knew I would remember more and do better on my exams if I was fully rested.

5. You'll maintain a healthy weight

Another study from the University of Chicago discovered that dieters who got more sleep lost more fat, when dieters who got less sleep lost more muscle mass. The folks who got more sleep were also less hungry throughout the day. I know this to be true personally, because when I'm sleepy I want to eat all of the high sugar foods I can to spike an energy burst. When I'm well rested I'm satisfied eating greens and vegetables instead.

6. You'll be able to manage your stress

If you have high blood pressure or high cholesterol you're probably not getting enough sleep. I'm not a doctor so I'm not saying ALL you need to reduce these is sleep. I am, however, suggesting that lack of sleep intensifies these factors. People who sleep more are proven to be less stressed than those who are sleep deprived. And let me tell you this about stress... you need to avoid it like the plague because it sort of is its own plague. Stress raises your cortisol levels and cortisol leeches vitamin C, which usually results in you getting sick. It's pretty hard to be a productive, badass bitch when you're sick. Also, stress is directly related to rapid aging, the formation of cancer cells, and heart disease. When I have a stressful day I go right to sleep.

7. You'll be happier

Sleep deprivation is also linked to depression. In fact I tell people this all the time, sleep is how I cope. The more stressful and even traumatic my life is, the more I sleep, and it's why I am so calm all the time even in depressing situations. I never wake up from a nap sad or pissed off, except for the fact that I wish I was still sleeping...

So as you can see there are many benefits attributed to getting a good night's sleep. There are probably even more I haven't listed here, but you get the idea. So now everyone who takes pity on me for how much sleep I need can stop because I'm actually much healthier and way more productive for it. If you want to be a badass you need to take care of yourself, that means eating well, exercising often, and sleeping a lot!