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How To Change Your Life By Starting A Bullet Journal

I know the title of this post seems pretty dramatic, but starting a bullet journal changed my life for the better. I've been talking about bullet journals in my posts and podcasts so I feel like it's really only fair if I explain how to start one, why you need to start one, and give you a peek at mine for an example (examples always help me visualize the point of things).

My bullet journal looks like it's been beaten up pretty badly because it has... I bring it with me everywhere.

My bullet journal looks like it's been beaten up pretty badly because it has... I bring it with me everywhere.

What is a bullet journal?

After I graduated college my dad bought me a journal as a graduation present to write down the next stage of my life. I didn't know I was going to turn it into a bullet journal at the time, I just knew that I had a lot of planning to do so I started to use it for that. I was looking for ideas on pintrest and found out what I was doing was called bullet journaling. I'm not entirely sure what the proper definition of one would be, I would describe it as a customized life planner. The overall purpose of one is to plan your life, your entire life, or at least whatever portions of it you feel you need to write down.

Why start one?

If you're anything like me you have all of these ideas that you want to accomplish, but you're not really sure how to. Bullet journals are the vehicle to help you actually achieve your goals and become more productive. I'll list out my different pages later, but anything you want to learn, or accomplish, or track, you can keep it all in your bullet journal. PLUS if you're a creative, like me, outlining the different pages are my version of those adult coloring books that everyone is obsessing over right now.

A peek at my bullet journal

I think it'll be more clear if I show you pages from mine. You can click through a few of them below. I'm not going to show every page because that would be like taking pictures of a private journal and I'm just not ready for that yet.

I'm working on my 2017 bullet journal now and I decided I wanted grid lines to make charts easier. Here is a list of pages that my 2017 bullet journal will incorporate:

2017 goals, Places I Want To Go, Reading List, Spiritual Goals, Workout Tracker, Yoga Tracker, Meditation Tracker, Packing List, Gratitude Tracker, Savings Tracker, Daily Routine, Weekly Routine, Monthly Routine, Daily Goals, Weekly Goals, Monthly Goals, Blood Type Diet Foods (look into this if you haven't!), Gardening Planner, Trip Planner, Level 10 Life, Monthly Tasks, Budget, Bill Tracker, Non Profit Planner, Brain Dump, Dog Tricks, Self Care Ideas, Spiritual Journal, Podcast Ideas, Blog Post Ideas, Blog Goals, Challenges

Those are what I have so far at least, I'm constantly adding pages whenever I need to plan things.

Explanation of some pages

Level 10 Life: This page is honestly where you should start. You come up with 10 categories (you can see mine listed above) and then you write down your 10 goals for each category. I have at least one daily goal, one weekly goal, one monthly goal, one yearly goal, one 5-year goal and one 10 year goal for each category and the other three are fluid. The reason why this is crucial is because it is going to help you prioritize your goal so when you go to make daily, weekly, monthly, yearly tasks you can refer back to this page. For example, if your goal is to read one book per month then when you're writing your monthly goals you add "read one book" and since you know you're going to have to read every day for your daily goals you write "read 30 minutes". It takes your larger goals and forces you to narrow them down into daily tasks. Another example would be for one of my spiritual goals I have "become a yoga instructor in 5 years" so I will need to construct a timeline that breaks down what I have to do every year, every month, every week and every day to reach this goal in time.

Savings: To track my savings I make a rectangle with what I'm saving for written above it. I then calculate how much I am going to need and divide that amount by how many months are between now and the due date. I make a box for each month with the accumulated amount written in each box and when I go to do my budget for the month I know how much to extract. For example, If I need $500 in 5 months for a trip I'm planning, I make a rectangle with 5 boxes and "$100, $200, $300, etc" marked in each box. When I've saved the amount in the box I color it in.

Brain Dump: This page I use for all of the ideas that run through my head no matter how crazy. They go here if I'm not sure if I want to dedicate a whole planning page to them, but I don't want to forget about them either. A lot of the time they're just notes to myself like "do a photoshoot with grandma soon and write a post about her"... stuff like that.

Trackers: These pages are what keep me motivated. You can see my workout tracker in the slideshow above. In each square I marked A, B, C, or D and these correspond with a youtube playlist of workout videos (because for those of you who don't know I hate gyms and the commute to one and back is a waste of precious time). I like to work out at home or run, hike, etc. I just go to my tracker and look at the day I'm on, go to the corresponding youtube playlist, and click shuffle so I get a random workout. After I complete the workout I color in the square. When all the squares are colored in I get a massage. Easy peasy and I'm motivated to do it.

Trip Planner: I use this page to calculate every single detail of a trip I'm planning. I mostly do this so I know EXACTLY how much to save for. I plan for gas by mileage, hotel, meals, everything. It also helps the other people I'm traveling with so they know how much to save for as well and what we're doing, etc.

Index: It is super important to keep an index because you're going to have a lot of different pages and looking for each page is going to be a waste of time.

These are just a few of my pages... if you have any questions or want any explanation of the other pages comment below or message me on Snapchat, whatever works! I'd be happy to explain or send you a snap of my page.  I will also be writing future posts about bullet journaling because I really believe it is what ambitious, but overwhelmed people need to be successful.

 

Minimizing Your Life - Not Just Your Closet
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But start with your closet...

Of course purging all of your crap is important and in fact you should start with your closet. You should donate everything you do not absolutely need for survival or for inspiration. My best friend pointed out to me that your closet represents your life, and she's right. If you want a life that is filled with only your priorities and no excess that will waste your time then you need to make sure your closet represents that. Mine is a little extreme and represents my perfectionist personality since all of my clothes are color coordinated, and then further coordinated by style of clothing. This is not difficult for me to organize though, because I only have the clothes that I wear every day in my closet. My friend's closet on the other hand is the exact opposite where clothes are just lucky to be hung up in the first place and it is full of things she never wears, but won't donate. If you start your minimalist experiment with your closet then you can set up the rest of your life to follow suit.

Organized clutter is still clutter, so get rid of it.

Now move onto the important things...

Most likely once you have started with your closet you have probably found that now your whole house has been purged because it's so addicting to watch negative space in your house emerge. I do not want this entire post to revolve around how to minimize your stuff. Like I said, if you do not find inspiration or need it to survive, donate it. Use this as your first step to taking control of your life and being a badass. With that out of the way we can move onto the important things... minimizing your life.

Minimalism is not about having less, it's about making room for more of what matters

Start with your email...

This is a giant task for many people, especially those who constantly have 1,000 unread messages. This might take you an entire day, and that's totally fine, I promise you it will be worth it. You need to move every single email that is junk into your junk folder so you stop getting emails from them. This will cut the amount of emails you get by at least half.

Next you need to make folders to organize your email. Again, organizing clutter still means you have clutter in your life, so junk as much as you can. My labels are receipts, subscriptions, student loans, other bills, and graduate school. If I get an email that does not fit my 5 labels then I have to deal with it as soon as it comes into my inbox. To create a label simply click on your labels tab - and create new. P.S. If you already have a bunch out out dated labels, delete them and all the emails they have in them!

Next, create filters for your labels. Every single receipt I get goes directly into my receipt folder and is there for when I need it and when I'm ready to look at it. Same for all of the other emails that have a label assigned. To create a filter select the mail from your inbox that you want filtered to that label and go to More - Filter messages like these - and it will prompt you through the set up.

Move onto your social media...

Unfollow and unfriend everyone you don't know or are sick of in each of your social media outlets. The less people you follow or friend the less noisy your social media will be and the happier you will become. This does not include linkedin, you need as big of a network there as possible. This can also be a daunting task, but if you take it one outlet at a time I promise it isn't that crazy and quite frankly it feels good to prioritize people. AND TURN OFF YOUR NOTIFICATIONS! You do not need to look at Facebook every time someone likes your post. I do not even have Facebook as an app on my phone because it's a waste of precious time. I also do not have twitter for the same reason.

Also go through your Facebook posts, twitter posts, etc, and rid yourself of anything you have said that does not aid you in the creation of the image you want to be attached to you. You have to always be thinking about your brand and each and every social media post is apart of that brand so go through them with that in mind. One of my vices was Pintrest, I pinned anything I found remotely useful and it was getting out of control, I went and deleted all of my boards and recreated ones that fit my brand. This is super important!

Your computer...

This actually took me a long time. I had to go through old assignments from school and see what papers I wanted to keep or get rid of. Going through pictures took me almost a whole day in itself. Everything I absolutely felt I needed I put in Google Drive so I can never lose it even if something happens to my computer. There is virtually nothing on my computer now and it feels so great! This is an important feat once you complete it. Plus your computer will run so much faster because of all of the new added memory.

The hard part - your schedule...

My motto works for your schedule too. If it isn't going to provide you with inspiration or aid in your survival (such as your job that is paying for your food), or make you a better person then stop allowing it to use precious time. For example, once I cut out watching competitive cooking shows out of my life I suddenly had time to meal prep. Obviously this does not mean cut out all TV, but you definitely need to prioritize your life this way. Say no to people who are asking too much of you and begin to live mindfully.

Make a daily routine to start. Once you have it down you can stray from it, but start out planning your whole day down to the hour. Budgeting your time is extremely important and will help you to be more productive so long as you only spend time on the important things.

Spring clean your schedule, not your stuff.

The happy part - your budget

I'm not a psychopath I understand that budgets aren't usually happy. This one will be different however, I can promise you that. Guess what is about to happen with your budget? It's about to get BIGGER. Want to know why? Because you're about to stop buying crap! Yay! More money in your savings! You just purged your whole house, why would you go out and start buying more stuff to fill it with? That's regression. You're only buying survival items or items you absolutely love and will inspire you.

Really though, you need to sit down and see what you can cut out of your budget. If you're not prioritizing TV then you probably don't need that Hulu subscription and you definitely do not need cable television (although I keep Netflix for sick days when I want to binge watch shows and they have great documentaries). You will listen to more podcasts (that are free) instead of music because that's less time you will have to spend reading about that topic, so you probably don't need Spotify either. Once you realize you do not need so many luxuries you're going to have more money to spend on important things and it'll make you happier!

Other ways to save money and have less stuff: get a library card and check out books (since you should be reading every single day) or movies, they're free and you give them back when you're done, meal prep so you're not eating out and wasting food you let go bad because you didn't prepare it, start a worm composting bin so you don't have to buy fertilizer or waste uneaten food, switch all of your accounts to paperless to save trees and have less mail and while you're doing this you'll see what accounts you can close, and stop going to sale sections of the store unless it's on something you absolutely need to survive (like food).

Side note: Excel has budget templates, you just fill in your amounts and labels and it'll calculate your spending for you!

He who buys what he does not need steals from himself - Swedish Proverb

Tend to your mind like you tend to a garden

Push out the negative vibes from your life like weeds. Are there negative people in your life? Quiet them or push them out. Practice mindfulness. Keep your mind clear of distraction and free from anxiety. If you only allow the good in and push out the bad your mind will be as beautiful as a manicured garden (and I promise you'll sleep more efficiently as well). Read books that will fill you with inspiration and positivity. Practice the art of being content. Yes, our aim is to be happy, but that's not stable and it fluctuates too much to rely on it. Be content with having less stuff and your life in general and it'll keep you from worrying, which means more positivity.

Now bring in the positive vibes

When your house is only full of things you absolutely love, and you're only spending time on things that bring you inspiration, and your not stressed out about money, and your social media life becomes quieter, I promise you the good vibes are going to flow. Your priorities are going to become clear to you because your mind is going to have room to think, plan, and categorize what is important and what is not.

To close...

Minimalism is a lifestyle so you need to make sure you're ready for it before you begin this challenge. It will be very overwhelming for you if you keep buying stuff and you keep purging, plus it's a waste of your time. If you're sentimental to your stuff then you need to seek therapy and see why that is because it has been proven to be unhealthy and a side effect of serious trauma. Minimalism is a lifestyle shared by those who have their priorities in check and are usually more successful and happier than their peers living in giant houses full of stuff.

 

 

How to be a Badass Bitch Who Gets Shit Done

Pardon my french... but actually don't because I'm not sorry for it. I suppose the weaker version of this post would be "how to be a well functioning adult who has their life together", but it doesn't have the same punch. So anyways... I'm not an expert on this topic, yet, but I do spend a lot of time on self development and have always just had a knack for getting my life together. So here are my tips that if you follow somewhat religiously, I promise you that you will be the most badass version of yourself.

Exercise!

If there was only one tip that I could give you to be successful, this is the one. I don't care what excuse you have, badass bitches are not lazy. If you do not want to get off of your butt and exercise then you do not want to be the best version of yourself and you can stop reading this post right now. And I am not telling you to exercise to lose weight, that is just a pleasant side effect of working out, I am telling you to because you will feel strong, motivated, and ALIVE. You will gain the confidence held by all badasses because you're going to feel good about yourself and you're going to prove to yourself that you are disciplined enough to get your freaking life together.

TIP: Running is the most efficient form of exercise and it's free, end it with some cool down yoga and a protein shake and then move onto the other steps.

Stop eating garbage!

Seriously, I'm not going to tell you that you need to throw out your chocolate and eat kale, but stop treating your body like a garbage pit. Badass bitches hold themselves to a very high standard and they not only take responsibility for their actions, they OWN it. Yes for breakfast I have an organic boiled egg and green smoothie because I'm fucking worth it. I'm worth so much more than cereal or McGag-me sandwiches. And don't you dare try to tell me a McGriddle just "tastes so good". No, actually, it really doesn't. You want to know what's better than a processed piece of trash? Knowing that you're going to be able to succeed and make something of yourself because you're giving your brain actual food that it can use to think of clever ways to get ahead. Stop allowing yourself to eat mediocre food, badass bitches are not mediocre.

Stop apologizing!

If I hear one more girl say "I'm sorry" when a man walks into her I'm going to lose it! Stop apologizing for things we all know you're not sorry for! You gave someone room-temperature coffee? Do not apologize they can get their own damn coffee. Someone wants to go to a club and you want to stay home and be introverted? Sick, just tell them that and don't apologize for it. Apologizing is basically the same thing as lying to avoid hurting someone's feelings and it WILL lead to codependency. If you are not genuinely sorry for something you have done or said do not apologize. And then when you say your sorry it'll actually mean something.

Side hustle!

Badass bitches do not have only one goal in life, unless that goal is to be badass. You need to have multiple projects going on because the world needs help and most of all it needs you to work on it, whatever that means. For example, I work full time, maintain this blog, just started a podcast, I'm completing a 2 year graduate program in 1 year and starting a non-profit... and I plan on writing books, and probably 70 other projects because I'm ambitious. A common theme here amongst powerful women is they do not settle. If the only thing in my life was my full time job I would be so depressed and would probably also be addicted to TLC shows about morbidly obese people because I would be looking for inspiration. Don't be that person, be a badass bitch who has projects going and is constantly trying to be even more successful. Badass bitches are financially independent and that means it's a clever idea to have back up incomes just in case you lose one.

Be a feminist!

Personally, I don't even believe this is really a thing, you're either a feminist or your sexist. With that said... be an assertive female who acts just as a badass man would and stop allowing people to treat you differently based on your gender. Stop letting men (or anyone for that matter) interrupt you, bump into you, yell at you, or do anything that treats you as lesser of a human being. Example: you do not need to "smile" and look friendly at all times, RBF is not a thing, men do not walk around smiling either.

Discover yourself!

Over and over and over and over again. You know what is the best superpower? Having complete control over your self esteem. If you know that you're a strong, independent woman who is beautiful, takes care of herself, is healthy, and is a productive member of society, nobody can hurt your ego. Nobody can make you feel like any less of a person than you do now because you know exactly who you are and what you're worth and nobody can take that from you. To get to this stage you need to be in love with yourself. Obviously this does not mean you need to be a narcissistic asshole, but you do need to love who you are and who you're trying to be. That positive self image will be your superpower. So get to know yourself and work on the parts you don't like so you can be the best version of yourself.

Go for it!

If you want to do something then find a way to do it. If you want to travel then find a way. Make a budget and stick to it and live your dream. Literally anything is possible if you take the time and effort to make it possible. For example, I wanted to start a non profit so guess what? I researched how to and I'm in the process of starting it with a whole support system behind me ready to help when I need them. Just do it.

Ask for help!

You're not an island. Life is so much easier when work is divided. People are going to surprise you with how willing they are to help you with whatever you need. I needed someone to take photos for this blog because I don't have a lot of time for that particular task, so I asked my sister and she's been an amazing site model. And the more successful you become the more people you'll have volunteering to help you. If you need a work out buddy, or advice on something, reach out to someone who seems to have it together. Build your community. Badass bitches are badass because we stick together and lift each other up.

Read!

AT LEAST 30 minutes per day. Read self help books, business books, fiction, non fiction, whatever! Your vocabulary will improve. You're going to be more interesting because you're going to have more to talk about. Your thought process is going to become more well rounded. You can tell the difference between a person who reads and a person who watches E! News for current events. It makes a difference. Also, listen to podcasts on your commute instead of always listening to the radio. They are a much more productive use of your time (not that I don't also love music...)

Stop settling!

Stop having shitty food, shitty coffee, shitty sex, shitty relationships, shitty friends, shitty drinks, and a shitty life. You are an amazing person who deserves to be surrounded with amazing experiences. (This does not mean blow your cash on expensive tequila btw). What I mean is... do not drink if you cannot afford to drink the good stuff. You need to be at home working on your side hustles if you're in that situation. Do not have a relationship if it is not going to make you the best version of yourself. Stop allowing mediocre things into your life or that's what you're going to be.

Be proactive!

When your alarm goes off in the morning GTFO of your bed. Get your morning routine down so you are at your most productive state throughout the day. Get your evening routine down so you can go to bed and sleep efficiently as well as have an easier morning routine. Organize your thoughts and plan out your time (I like bullet journals, but do whatever works for you). Do you really think Beyonce is hitting her snooze alarm in the morning? No. Do you think she's having a caramel frappacino and a McGriddle for breakfast? No. She's eating like the Queen she is because she knows that's how you are at your most productive state. Stop making excuses for yourself and get your life together.

PSA: A great app is the sleep cycle app if you don't have an apple watch or fitbit. It will track your REM cycles and wake you up at the end of a cycle so you're not jolted awake in deep sleep. I'm not a morning person so this app is the only reason I can get out of bed without hitting snooze.

Use self care!

And although face masks and pedicures are versions of self care, they are not really what I mean. I mean take care of yourself. Go to the dentist, the doctor, get your oil changed, and do the adult things in your life that aren't super fun, but WILL make you feel better. I feel so relaxed after I've given my car an oil change, bath, and good vacuum. I feel like I can take on the world after that. Self care means taking time to do things that will take stress out of your life. 

Say no!

If you're overworked then tell your boss no. If you do not have enough free time for the things you want to do then tell your friends and your family no. This is critical. You need to make sure your pitcher is full before you can pour into other cups. It does not make you a bad person, it makes you an aware, assertive person and people will respect you for it. 

Be a good fucking person!

Badass bitches are NOT stuck up snobs who think they're better than everyone else. You have an obligation to be a productive and decent member of society. Badass bitches recognize this and they fight for this and they're a beacon of light in a very dark world filled with shitty relationships, shitty alcohol and shitty people. Your success is not about just you, it's what you can do with your success. I want power so I can help people with it, not because I'm a power hungry egomaniac. Educate yourself before you have opinions on political issues, or really any issues, and be that breath of fresh air everyone is craving.

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4 Reasons Why Boundaries Are Important and How To Implement Them

What is one thing every happy and successful person has in common? They set boundaries. Here’s why you need boundaries and how to implement them in your life.

1. Boundaries prevent you from being taken advantage of

This is extremely important for your happiness. Think to the last time you were taken advantage of. How did it feel? Horrible right? If you set standards for how you allow people to treat you they will respect you more. It’s really difficult to take advantage of a person who does not allow you to take advantage of them (obviously...)

2. Boundaries keep your self esteem high

If you do not allow others to make fun of you or make you feel bad then your self esteem will stay high. When people aren’t taking you for granted you feel better about yourself. Self-respect is going to feed your self esteem and you’ll be thanking me when you’re happy and surrounded by positivity.

3. Boundaries strengthen your personal relationships

If you allow people to walk all over you, you are going to resent them. By clearly defining what you will allow and not allow in your life you’re not setting your relationships up to fail. You cannot expect people to read your mind. If you do not show that you’re hurting then it is not fair to the person hurting you, how could they know? Setting boundaries will allow for trust to be built. Your partner or friends or family can trust that the emotions you’re showing are real.

4. Boundaries prevent abuse

Mental abuse is not always as easy to pinpoint, especially in romantic relationships, as physical abuse. If you have set up boundaries and notice that a person is constantly ignoring them, it is probably a good sign that they need to leave your life. That is a sign of abuse and you will be happier without that negativity, believe me.

How to implement boundaries:

  1. You need to clearly define what boundaries you want to set in your life. Do you want people to know they cannot ask you for money? Perhaps you hate when people talk about dieting around you. Maybe you would prefer if your family stayed in a hotel instead of your home. Write these down and put some real thought into them.

  2. If you’re having trouble use the “list 5 things method“. List 5 things you want people to stop doing to you, such as ignoring you. 5 things to stop saying to you, such as “you always give up”. And 5 things you want people to stop doing around you, such as gossiping about colleagues.

  3. Own it. You have a right to every single boundary you want to set and you need to be confident in each one. If you allow the boundaries to be crossed then you are losing respect and happiness simultaneously.

  4. At first those already crossing your boundaries are going to object. Remember to always stay calm, explain them as simply as possible, be responsible of your emotions, and if you need to compromise you can, as long as it feels right.

 

P.S. The best part of implementing boundaries is that it will ward off manipulators. Your life will soon only consist of well-meaning relationships.