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Gratitude : The real secret to happiness, success and healthy relationships

Get ready for the best piece of advice I could give to anyone. The most important lesson I've ever learned is that gratitude should always be your number 1 focus. Here's why...

You'll be happier

Newsflash... happiness is not a destination. You can't book a flight to happiness and spend the weekend. If you want to be happy you need to be happy that you even get to focus on your happiness. You need to be GRATEFUL that you get to work towards a goal. You need to be GRATEFUL for all of the experiences, materialistic things, and lessons you have had throughout your life because they were blessings. Whenever I get pissed about something not going my way I look back to who I was in 4th grade... if I had no experiences I would still be that person and there is no way in hell I would rather hang out with my 4th grade self than the woman I am now. I'm thankful that I've had and will have the opportunity to grow. So now when something shitty happens in my life I can look at it as a lesson and say thank you to the universe for helping me grow. I have nothing to be sad about when I look at life that way leaving only room for happiness.

You'll be more successful

Because guess what? You're going to be grateful for your day and actually use all of it to its full potential. You're going to be grateful for any handouts, advice, help, or advantages that come your way and you're going to use them to help yourself be more successful. You're also going to be grateful that you received so much help and give back when you have the means, which builds you an army of loyal followers instead of enemies you stomped on to get where you are. You're going to be grateful for your success, you're going to thank the universe (or God or whatever you want to call it) and in return for your gratitude it'll supply you with more (I mean look at Oprah she can't give money away as fast as she earns it, but the flow of energy keeps in coming in).

You'll have healthier relationships

I'm not a relationship expert, but I do know that if someone does something for you and you don't say thank you, resentment will build and it'll leave a crack in your foundation. I literally say thank you for every single thing like letting me eat your leftovers or even just hanging out with me. I've never met anyone who ever said "I don't want to hang out with so-and-so because they're just so grateful for everything I do for them". I have, on the other hand, heard the opposite on multiple occasions. The more gratitude I get for doing things for other people the more things I want to do for them. I mean just be grateful that they're even in your life and watch how the relationship builds. BTW this includes romantic, familial, and platonic relationships.

Oh and...

you should be grateful regardless because if you're not you look like an asshole to anyone who has less than you do. Go stand in front of the kids living in landfills in Brazil and talk to them about how rough your life is because you got a speeding ticket WHILE SPEEDING. You're problems are only problems because that's what you've labeled them. I call them lessons or maybe even inconveniences, but my problems are not problems compared to 99% of the problems everyone else in the world has. Show some respect.  

 

 

 

Why Badass Bitches Sleep A LOT

Anyone who knows me knows that I am a professional sleeper. I sleep more than anyone I've ever met and if I don't get my sleep I am a walking nightmare. I don't apologize for it. I know that I need sleep, I inform people around me that I need sleep, and yet somehow people are shocked that when I don't get my 8 hours I'm cranky. Also... society treats sleep as a weakness, when on the contrary lack of sleep is definitely one of our biggest weaknesses.

You know what I mean right? There's always that person who brags about how they can function with only 4 hours of sleep per night. Well that's great and all... but it is HORRIBLE for your body not to sleep. This is why I don't feel bad when I sleep for 12 hours and take a 2 hour nap in the middle of the day.

Sleep is a MUST if you want to be a badass bitch. Productivity does not depend on how much you do, but rather the quality of what you're doing. So yes you might be able to get more done if you sleep for 4 hours instead of 8, but the quality of work you're producing is sub-par because your body and your brain is not at it's full-functioning, supreme state.

Here's a list of the benefits of sleep.

1. Your memory will improve

What is more badass than a person who can remember conversations and details about certain situations and meetings without having to write them down or ask what they missed. The most impressive people, IMO, are the ones with a good memory.

2. You'll be more creative

A study from Harvard University showed that while you sleep your brain goes through your memories and strengthens the emotional components of your memory during sleep. This helps you be more creative and creativity is the epicenter of a badass. How are you going to be innovative if you're not first creative? Plus... your brain processes information while you sleep so you'll be able to think of new ways to look at something or think about something and new ideas and inspiration are likely to spark.

3. You'll have less fatigue

I mean obviously... if you sleep more then you're less sleepy. A Standford University study goes further, however, and discovered that athletes who slept for 10 hours each night improved their sprint time and stamina and reduced their daytime fatigue. Again, how productive can you really be at 3pm when your body is begging you for a nap and instead your pushing it to send out work. You're working harder, not smarter, when you allow your body to feel this fatigue throughout the day. I'm productive from the time I wake up until the time I go to sleep because I'm well rested.

4. You'll be sharper

When you meet a real go-getter, you know, the type of badass that makes you think "wow this person really has it all together", would you describe them as dull or spacey? No. You describe them as sharp and someone who is on top of it and paying attention to their environment. When I'm sleep deprived I am super cranky because I have to use so much more energy to engage in conversations with people. And I often have to tell people "sorry I only got 4 hours of sleep so I probably won't remember a lot of this". When I get 10 hours of sleep, however, I can hear something once and remember it for the rest of my life. This is just me and how my brain works, but I'm sure yours is somewhat similar. Everyone is sharper when they get a good night's sleep.

P.S. This is also why I was comfortable napping throughout finals week. I knew I would remember more and do better on my exams if I was fully rested.

5. You'll maintain a healthy weight

Another study from the University of Chicago discovered that dieters who got more sleep lost more fat, when dieters who got less sleep lost more muscle mass. The folks who got more sleep were also less hungry throughout the day. I know this to be true personally, because when I'm sleepy I want to eat all of the high sugar foods I can to spike an energy burst. When I'm well rested I'm satisfied eating greens and vegetables instead.

6. You'll be able to manage your stress

If you have high blood pressure or high cholesterol you're probably not getting enough sleep. I'm not a doctor so I'm not saying ALL you need to reduce these is sleep. I am, however, suggesting that lack of sleep intensifies these factors. People who sleep more are proven to be less stressed than those who are sleep deprived. And let me tell you this about stress... you need to avoid it like the plague because it sort of is its own plague. Stress raises your cortisol levels and cortisol leeches vitamin C, which usually results in you getting sick. It's pretty hard to be a productive, badass bitch when you're sick. Also, stress is directly related to rapid aging, the formation of cancer cells, and heart disease. When I have a stressful day I go right to sleep.

7. You'll be happier

Sleep deprivation is also linked to depression. In fact I tell people this all the time, sleep is how I cope. The more stressful and even traumatic my life is, the more I sleep, and it's why I am so calm all the time even in depressing situations. I never wake up from a nap sad or pissed off, except for the fact that I wish I was still sleeping...

So as you can see there are many benefits attributed to getting a good night's sleep. There are probably even more I haven't listed here, but you get the idea. So now everyone who takes pity on me for how much sleep I need can stop because I'm actually much healthier and way more productive for it. If you want to be a badass you need to take care of yourself, that means eating well, exercising often, and sleeping a lot!