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Why Badass Bitches Sleep A LOT

Anyone who knows me knows that I am a professional sleeper. I sleep more than anyone I've ever met and if I don't get my sleep I am a walking nightmare. I don't apologize for it. I know that I need sleep, I inform people around me that I need sleep, and yet somehow people are shocked that when I don't get my 8 hours I'm cranky. Also... society treats sleep as a weakness, when on the contrary lack of sleep is definitely one of our biggest weaknesses.

You know what I mean right? There's always that person who brags about how they can function with only 4 hours of sleep per night. Well that's great and all... but it is HORRIBLE for your body not to sleep. This is why I don't feel bad when I sleep for 12 hours and take a 2 hour nap in the middle of the day.

Sleep is a MUST if you want to be a badass bitch. Productivity does not depend on how much you do, but rather the quality of what you're doing. So yes you might be able to get more done if you sleep for 4 hours instead of 8, but the quality of work you're producing is sub-par because your body and your brain is not at it's full-functioning, supreme state.

Here's a list of the benefits of sleep.

1. Your memory will improve

What is more badass than a person who can remember conversations and details about certain situations and meetings without having to write them down or ask what they missed. The most impressive people, IMO, are the ones with a good memory.

2. You'll be more creative

A study from Harvard University showed that while you sleep your brain goes through your memories and strengthens the emotional components of your memory during sleep. This helps you be more creative and creativity is the epicenter of a badass. How are you going to be innovative if you're not first creative? Plus... your brain processes information while you sleep so you'll be able to think of new ways to look at something or think about something and new ideas and inspiration are likely to spark.

3. You'll have less fatigue

I mean obviously... if you sleep more then you're less sleepy. A Standford University study goes further, however, and discovered that athletes who slept for 10 hours each night improved their sprint time and stamina and reduced their daytime fatigue. Again, how productive can you really be at 3pm when your body is begging you for a nap and instead your pushing it to send out work. You're working harder, not smarter, when you allow your body to feel this fatigue throughout the day. I'm productive from the time I wake up until the time I go to sleep because I'm well rested.

4. You'll be sharper

When you meet a real go-getter, you know, the type of badass that makes you think "wow this person really has it all together", would you describe them as dull or spacey? No. You describe them as sharp and someone who is on top of it and paying attention to their environment. When I'm sleep deprived I am super cranky because I have to use so much more energy to engage in conversations with people. And I often have to tell people "sorry I only got 4 hours of sleep so I probably won't remember a lot of this". When I get 10 hours of sleep, however, I can hear something once and remember it for the rest of my life. This is just me and how my brain works, but I'm sure yours is somewhat similar. Everyone is sharper when they get a good night's sleep.

P.S. This is also why I was comfortable napping throughout finals week. I knew I would remember more and do better on my exams if I was fully rested.

5. You'll maintain a healthy weight

Another study from the University of Chicago discovered that dieters who got more sleep lost more fat, when dieters who got less sleep lost more muscle mass. The folks who got more sleep were also less hungry throughout the day. I know this to be true personally, because when I'm sleepy I want to eat all of the high sugar foods I can to spike an energy burst. When I'm well rested I'm satisfied eating greens and vegetables instead.

6. You'll be able to manage your stress

If you have high blood pressure or high cholesterol you're probably not getting enough sleep. I'm not a doctor so I'm not saying ALL you need to reduce these is sleep. I am, however, suggesting that lack of sleep intensifies these factors. People who sleep more are proven to be less stressed than those who are sleep deprived. And let me tell you this about stress... you need to avoid it like the plague because it sort of is its own plague. Stress raises your cortisol levels and cortisol leeches vitamin C, which usually results in you getting sick. It's pretty hard to be a productive, badass bitch when you're sick. Also, stress is directly related to rapid aging, the formation of cancer cells, and heart disease. When I have a stressful day I go right to sleep.

7. You'll be happier

Sleep deprivation is also linked to depression. In fact I tell people this all the time, sleep is how I cope. The more stressful and even traumatic my life is, the more I sleep, and it's why I am so calm all the time even in depressing situations. I never wake up from a nap sad or pissed off, except for the fact that I wish I was still sleeping...

So as you can see there are many benefits attributed to getting a good night's sleep. There are probably even more I haven't listed here, but you get the idea. So now everyone who takes pity on me for how much sleep I need can stop because I'm actually much healthier and way more productive for it. If you want to be a badass you need to take care of yourself, that means eating well, exercising often, and sleeping a lot!

How to be a Badass Bitch Who Gets Shit Done

Pardon my french... but actually don't because I'm not sorry for it. I suppose the weaker version of this post would be "how to be a well functioning adult who has their life together", but it doesn't have the same punch. So anyways... I'm not an expert on this topic, yet, but I do spend a lot of time on self development and have always just had a knack for getting my life together. So here are my tips that if you follow somewhat religiously, I promise you that you will be the most badass version of yourself.

Exercise!

If there was only one tip that I could give you to be successful, this is the one. I don't care what excuse you have, badass bitches are not lazy. If you do not want to get off of your butt and exercise then you do not want to be the best version of yourself and you can stop reading this post right now. And I am not telling you to exercise to lose weight, that is just a pleasant side effect of working out, I am telling you to because you will feel strong, motivated, and ALIVE. You will gain the confidence held by all badasses because you're going to feel good about yourself and you're going to prove to yourself that you are disciplined enough to get your freaking life together.

TIP: Running is the most efficient form of exercise and it's free, end it with some cool down yoga and a protein shake and then move onto the other steps.

Stop eating garbage!

Seriously, I'm not going to tell you that you need to throw out your chocolate and eat kale, but stop treating your body like a garbage pit. Badass bitches hold themselves to a very high standard and they not only take responsibility for their actions, they OWN it. Yes for breakfast I have an organic boiled egg and green smoothie because I'm fucking worth it. I'm worth so much more than cereal or McGag-me sandwiches. And don't you dare try to tell me a McGriddle just "tastes so good". No, actually, it really doesn't. You want to know what's better than a processed piece of trash? Knowing that you're going to be able to succeed and make something of yourself because you're giving your brain actual food that it can use to think of clever ways to get ahead. Stop allowing yourself to eat mediocre food, badass bitches are not mediocre.

Stop apologizing!

If I hear one more girl say "I'm sorry" when a man walks into her I'm going to lose it! Stop apologizing for things we all know you're not sorry for! You gave someone room-temperature coffee? Do not apologize they can get their own damn coffee. Someone wants to go to a club and you want to stay home and be introverted? Sick, just tell them that and don't apologize for it. Apologizing is basically the same thing as lying to avoid hurting someone's feelings and it WILL lead to codependency. If you are not genuinely sorry for something you have done or said do not apologize. And then when you say your sorry it'll actually mean something.

Side hustle!

Badass bitches do not have only one goal in life, unless that goal is to be badass. You need to have multiple projects going on because the world needs help and most of all it needs you to work on it, whatever that means. For example, I work full time, maintain this blog, just started a podcast, I'm completing a 2 year graduate program in 1 year and starting a non-profit... and I plan on writing books, and probably 70 other projects because I'm ambitious. A common theme here amongst powerful women is they do not settle. If the only thing in my life was my full time job I would be so depressed and would probably also be addicted to TLC shows about morbidly obese people because I would be looking for inspiration. Don't be that person, be a badass bitch who has projects going and is constantly trying to be even more successful. Badass bitches are financially independent and that means it's a clever idea to have back up incomes just in case you lose one.

Be a feminist!

Personally, I don't even believe this is really a thing, you're either a feminist or your sexist. With that said... be an assertive female who acts just as a badass man would and stop allowing people to treat you differently based on your gender. Stop letting men (or anyone for that matter) interrupt you, bump into you, yell at you, or do anything that treats you as lesser of a human being. Example: you do not need to "smile" and look friendly at all times, RBF is not a thing, men do not walk around smiling either.

Discover yourself!

Over and over and over and over again. You know what is the best superpower? Having complete control over your self esteem. If you know that you're a strong, independent woman who is beautiful, takes care of herself, is healthy, and is a productive member of society, nobody can hurt your ego. Nobody can make you feel like any less of a person than you do now because you know exactly who you are and what you're worth and nobody can take that from you. To get to this stage you need to be in love with yourself. Obviously this does not mean you need to be a narcissistic asshole, but you do need to love who you are and who you're trying to be. That positive self image will be your superpower. So get to know yourself and work on the parts you don't like so you can be the best version of yourself.

Go for it!

If you want to do something then find a way to do it. If you want to travel then find a way. Make a budget and stick to it and live your dream. Literally anything is possible if you take the time and effort to make it possible. For example, I wanted to start a non profit so guess what? I researched how to and I'm in the process of starting it with a whole support system behind me ready to help when I need them. Just do it.

Ask for help!

You're not an island. Life is so much easier when work is divided. People are going to surprise you with how willing they are to help you with whatever you need. I needed someone to take photos for this blog because I don't have a lot of time for that particular task, so I asked my sister and she's been an amazing site model. And the more successful you become the more people you'll have volunteering to help you. If you need a work out buddy, or advice on something, reach out to someone who seems to have it together. Build your community. Badass bitches are badass because we stick together and lift each other up.

Read!

AT LEAST 30 minutes per day. Read self help books, business books, fiction, non fiction, whatever! Your vocabulary will improve. You're going to be more interesting because you're going to have more to talk about. Your thought process is going to become more well rounded. You can tell the difference between a person who reads and a person who watches E! News for current events. It makes a difference. Also, listen to podcasts on your commute instead of always listening to the radio. They are a much more productive use of your time (not that I don't also love music...)

Stop settling!

Stop having shitty food, shitty coffee, shitty sex, shitty relationships, shitty friends, shitty drinks, and a shitty life. You are an amazing person who deserves to be surrounded with amazing experiences. (This does not mean blow your cash on expensive tequila btw). What I mean is... do not drink if you cannot afford to drink the good stuff. You need to be at home working on your side hustles if you're in that situation. Do not have a relationship if it is not going to make you the best version of yourself. Stop allowing mediocre things into your life or that's what you're going to be.

Be proactive!

When your alarm goes off in the morning GTFO of your bed. Get your morning routine down so you are at your most productive state throughout the day. Get your evening routine down so you can go to bed and sleep efficiently as well as have an easier morning routine. Organize your thoughts and plan out your time (I like bullet journals, but do whatever works for you). Do you really think Beyonce is hitting her snooze alarm in the morning? No. Do you think she's having a caramel frappacino and a McGriddle for breakfast? No. She's eating like the Queen she is because she knows that's how you are at your most productive state. Stop making excuses for yourself and get your life together.

PSA: A great app is the sleep cycle app if you don't have an apple watch or fitbit. It will track your REM cycles and wake you up at the end of a cycle so you're not jolted awake in deep sleep. I'm not a morning person so this app is the only reason I can get out of bed without hitting snooze.

Use self care!

And although face masks and pedicures are versions of self care, they are not really what I mean. I mean take care of yourself. Go to the dentist, the doctor, get your oil changed, and do the adult things in your life that aren't super fun, but WILL make you feel better. I feel so relaxed after I've given my car an oil change, bath, and good vacuum. I feel like I can take on the world after that. Self care means taking time to do things that will take stress out of your life. 

Say no!

If you're overworked then tell your boss no. If you do not have enough free time for the things you want to do then tell your friends and your family no. This is critical. You need to make sure your pitcher is full before you can pour into other cups. It does not make you a bad person, it makes you an aware, assertive person and people will respect you for it. 

Be a good fucking person!

Badass bitches are NOT stuck up snobs who think they're better than everyone else. You have an obligation to be a productive and decent member of society. Badass bitches recognize this and they fight for this and they're a beacon of light in a very dark world filled with shitty relationships, shitty alcohol and shitty people. Your success is not about just you, it's what you can do with your success. I want power so I can help people with it, not because I'm a power hungry egomaniac. Educate yourself before you have opinions on political issues, or really any issues, and be that breath of fresh air everyone is craving.

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