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4 Reasons Why You Need To Check Your Attitude

1. Your vibe attracts your tribe

If you want to be surrounded by positive go-getters you need to be a positive go-getter. The vibe that you put out into the universe is the vibe that you're going to get back. My favorite quote is "you can't change the people around you, but you can change the people around you". If people around you are super negative and enjoy having pity parties every night you need to cut the chord and surround yourself with more positive people. And positive people generally only want to be around other positive people.

2. You'll be more productive

If you want to know the real secret behind being productive, here it is. You have to WANT to be productive. Your attitude needs to be in a place where you actually want to do the things you're thinking about doing. If your attitude is checked you'll love learning, working out, reading, and crossing off whatever is on your to-do list because you know it's making you a better version of yourself.

3. More opportunities will be available to you

This one is huge. I don't believe in luck. I didn't receive any of the opportunities in my life because I sat around and waited for them to happen. My attitude was checked. I was open to new experiences, I wanted to be better, I wanted to further my education, I wanted to be successful, and I was excited about any opportunity that came my way, no matter how small. Nobody had to beat me to go to class when I was in college because I WANTED to go. Nobody had to force me to apply for internships, I WANTED to learn and when I got there I took advantage of every learning experience. The people who are giving out opportunities can see the glimmer in the eye of the person with a good attitude. And since good attitudes are few and far between, having one automatically gives you an advantage.

4. You'll be happier

Warning: don't go trying to chase happiness. Like I explained in my post about resolutions it's not going to make you happier, however, not being excited about life is sure not going to help either. If you work on trying to be more grateful, more humble, and more helpful, you're going to be happier. You can take my word on this one. We've all met someone with a positive attitude and we've all met someone with a negative attitude. Which one seems happier? Which one would YOU rather hang out with? With one is going to get farther in life? Check your attitude and be the positive person. No excuses. :)

4 Reasons Why Boundaries Are Important and How To Implement Them

What is one thing every happy and successful person has in common? They set boundaries. Here’s why you need boundaries and how to implement them in your life.

1. Boundaries prevent you from being taken advantage of

This is extremely important for your happiness. Think to the last time you were taken advantage of. How did it feel? Horrible right? If you set standards for how you allow people to treat you they will respect you more. It’s really difficult to take advantage of a person who does not allow you to take advantage of them (obviously...)

2. Boundaries keep your self esteem high

If you do not allow others to make fun of you or make you feel bad then your self esteem will stay high. When people aren’t taking you for granted you feel better about yourself. Self-respect is going to feed your self esteem and you’ll be thanking me when you’re happy and surrounded by positivity.

3. Boundaries strengthen your personal relationships

If you allow people to walk all over you, you are going to resent them. By clearly defining what you will allow and not allow in your life you’re not setting your relationships up to fail. You cannot expect people to read your mind. If you do not show that you’re hurting then it is not fair to the person hurting you, how could they know? Setting boundaries will allow for trust to be built. Your partner or friends or family can trust that the emotions you’re showing are real.

4. Boundaries prevent abuse

Mental abuse is not always as easy to pinpoint, especially in romantic relationships, as physical abuse. If you have set up boundaries and notice that a person is constantly ignoring them, it is probably a good sign that they need to leave your life. That is a sign of abuse and you will be happier without that negativity, believe me.

How to implement boundaries:

  1. You need to clearly define what boundaries you want to set in your life. Do you want people to know they cannot ask you for money? Perhaps you hate when people talk about dieting around you. Maybe you would prefer if your family stayed in a hotel instead of your home. Write these down and put some real thought into them.

  2. If you’re having trouble use the “list 5 things method“. List 5 things you want people to stop doing to you, such as ignoring you. 5 things to stop saying to you, such as “you always give up”. And 5 things you want people to stop doing around you, such as gossiping about colleagues.

  3. Own it. You have a right to every single boundary you want to set and you need to be confident in each one. If you allow the boundaries to be crossed then you are losing respect and happiness simultaneously.

  4. At first those already crossing your boundaries are going to object. Remember to always stay calm, explain them as simply as possible, be responsible of your emotions, and if you need to compromise you can, as long as it feels right.

 

P.S. The best part of implementing boundaries is that it will ward off manipulators. Your life will soon only consist of well-meaning relationships.