12 Reminders for my Best Friend

1. Feel all of your emotions

Sometimes you are super emotional and cry at every baby or puppy you see, and other times you are a stone cold sociopath. Both are perfectly okay and I want you to know that you can be crazy emotional, or crazy emotionless and I will still love you. Feeling all of your emotions is so healthy and in order to get to know yourself and have a good relationship with yourself you need to feel all of those emotions. Take your time and feel them for as long as you need to, I'll support you along the whole roller coaster without complaint.

2. I'm not going to baby you though...

Because I love you I am not going to let you be mediocre. You deserve to be the best version of yourself and allowing you to settle in your career, in your health, and in your relationships is not going to happen. I'm going to kick your butt when you need it because I love you enough to care.

3. You're more than enough

And by that I mean for yourself. You have a whole, complete soul that does not need to find another to be fully functioning. I know that you and I are soul mates, as in our souls match up perfectly and harmoniously, but we do not need each other to be complete. And you definitely do not need a partner to be complete either. You are such a well-rounded, down-to-earth, all around good hearted person and even if you are the only person you have (which will never be true, hello... here I am...) you will and are complete.

4. You're a boss, act like it

Seriously. Fuck society. You don't need to walk around smiling. RBF is not a thing. Men don't walk around smiling, you don't need to either. Stand up tall with confidence knowing that you're a boss ass bitch who people can't mess with, because guess what, you are. Be assertive about how you're feeling at work, with your family, and with your relationships because your feelings are important and you deserve to have healthy relationships in each of those areas. Do what you want because YOU want to.

5. You're beautiful

The reason why this is number 5 and not number 1 is because I feel like you do not need to be reminded of how beautiful you are as often as the first 4. With that said, I want you to know that you are, inside and out, one of the most beautiful people I have ever met in my life. I'm not sure how you're not a celebrity yet tbh. People should be obsessed with you by now.

6. You're going to make it

Enjoy every time period in your life and don't hurry to the next one. Take in every experience and learn as much as you can from it. You're fine right now and you are going to be fine in the future. You have a support system behind you, one that includes me, and no matter what happens you're going to succeed. We won't let you fail.

7. I'm going to need you, too

And I know you'll be there, you always have been. If there's one person who I know has my back, it's you. I've put you through a lot and I am so eternally grateful that you're still in my life. I need you to remind me that I'm a boss, to kick my butt when I'm making excuses that don't let me reach my full potential, and when I'm not allowing myself to feel my emotions. You're my main (wo)man and I'm going to need you, too.

8. I'm not going to judge you

You can tell me whatever you want and I will not tell another human being. I'm never going to judge you for your choices or actions. I know you have a good heart and you're figuring yourself out, too. Our friendship is a safe space and it's the reason we've made it this far, with everything that has happened. I might point things out to you, or tell you something you did was dumb, but I will not judge you for it.

9. I'm not going to let you settle down

You can have a family and stuff, in fact that's preferred because your kids will be so stinking cute and I want to spoil them, but you are never going to get stuck in a rut. I'm going to pull you out of your routines and monotony for the rest of your life because that is how we'll gain wisdom to pass down. I want us to have so many stories to tell when we're old that people would rather listen to us than watch wheel of fortune (or whatever old people will doing in the future).

10. You can be whoever you want to be

Whatever personality you feel like changing into (well... within reason.. you can't like join a cult or whatever) I will support. I want to be here to help you grow as a person. Preferably, I want us to grow together. We can lean on each other for support for the rest of our lives.

11. You do not need to please everyone

I love how much thought and effort you put into your relationships with people, platonic and romantic. Every single person who has you in their life is so lucky and they should know that. With that said, you need to be happy before you can make others happy. Make sure your pitcher is empty before you start pouring into other cups. That means you cannot please everyone, and that's okay, pick the ones who are going to always be around you and focus on those relationships.

12. I will always unconditionally love you

As in I will help you without expecting it in return, I will give you things without expecting anything back, and I will stand up for you whenever you need it. I know that you would do the same thing for me and that's why your worthy of it. I do not go out of my way for everyone and I am selfish that way, you know this, but I will for you, anytime, anywhere, no matter what.